Today I got out all the ingredients and printed off the recipe and just handed it to Darby. She IS eight now. I feel like sometimes I hover over her too much. I know she is capable and when I doubt that and do for her, then she doubts herself. So I promised myself to butt out! And I watched and tried to stay back as she made Gingerbread playdough for two of her closest friends for Christmas/going away gifts. Stole the idea from here: http://moneysavingmom.com/2011/12/homemade-gingerbread-playdough-playdough-mats.html I tried to say "no" as much as possible when she asked for help as well. She lacks confidence in herself! She can do! And she did! : ) Loved this idea and we even had a little leftover which got handed over to the little ones while she finished packaging. And then they all three sat at the table for well over an hour cutting, molding, and smooshing yummy smelling playdough. We will definitely have to make more. The other day in the van Darby asked me when she could start dating. I believe this question popped up because of our lovely babysitter who has been dating her boyfriend for a few years. Darby is really fun to have these types of conversations with. She's not super funny like Bryse, but is fun because I get to know her better and I always love what I find out. She is SUCH a first born and there for is very analytical and thoughtful. Here's what it sounded like:
Darby: Mom, when can I date? Me: (moment to remain composed and not start weeping and screaming) Well, what is the purpose of dating, Darby? Darby: To find your husband. Me: Right on! And what age do you believe is an appropriate age to marry? *I should take a moment here to explain that Robert and I do not uphold a strict rule of going to college before marrying, or dating for years before marrying, or being "well off" before marrying. This is probably because of a couple of reasons. One being that we didn't wait until after college to marry. If we had, we probably would've had sex before we got married because that would've been a long time to wait.(not that it's impossible, just not worth the frustration) We also just knew that we wanted to be married and didn't see a good enough reason to wait. YES, this can make things hard, but marriage is hard regardless. I don't believe there is a perfect age in which to wed. Success depends on each spouse's dedication to the Lord and how hard they are willing to make it work, not an age. If Darby wants to marry at 18 and has found an outstanding Godly young man and so feels lead to marry him, horray! If Bryse is 30 and experiences the same, horray! Atleast, that is where we are now on the subject. We'll see if that changes. Darby: Hmmmm....I dunno, 20 or 21? Me: Seems reasonable. So if dating is for the purpose of finding your husband and you don't want to get married until 20 or 21, then how old do you need to be to date? I mean, there isn't much of a point in dating when you aren't even old enough to marry, I would think. Darby: No. I suppose I should start dating when I'm 18 or 19 years old. Is that alright? Me: Sounds very smart to me! We talked about it for a little while longer after that, but I was very pleased with the conversation. Who knows if it will stick, but it's a nice memory to have with my daughter. Robert and I both wish that we had done the "dating" thing differently before we met eachother. I explained that to her. I also told her that her father stopped "dating" (as America defines it) when he became a christian. And he only declared me his girlfriend once he was pretty sure that I was "wife material". So we will likely be teaching them that dating is for finding a husband/wife, and before they are ready for a spouse, they can just be friends and hang out. I believe Darby will be very excepting of this idea! Bryse on the other hand.....hmmm. Robert said he's watching her like a hawk after she pointed out some teenage boys to Darby and declared, "They are hot!" Which, by the way, she did NOT learn from some silly teeny bopper tv show but from her father's frequent declarations about myself. Now we just gotta make sure she doesn't go around pinching other's bottoms like she see's her father doing! HA!
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